Some subs on Reddit are unpredictable. You may get totally different responses and it sometimes seem to depend what the first responses are. a couple of times I’ve made a post and the first answer is some sort of scolding “well you should’ve known better!”, And then everyone votes that up and the next five replies are the same… So I just deleted it, and reposted at a different time of day two days later, and the replies are helpful, sympathetic and supportive.
Right. I think people just see the downvote and pile on. It’s easier than actually reading the post and figuring out the person’s demeanor and whether it’s sarcastic and so on. There are a few other dynamics about that. Some people look for people whose posts are downvoted so they can chide them, scold them, insult or argue with them. I have had comments that are originally misinterpreted or targeted for ideology that end up turning around, though. Sounding rational or clarifying in replies sometimes works, as long as the comment wasn’t too far down before other people actually read it. If you get a defensive or insulting attitude, though, there’s nothing people on reddit like downvoting more than that.